hard times

[ruffnready]

hey you lot how`s everyone doing,sorry i left kinda suddenly been having really hard time last month or so,,split up with the lady after 13 glorious yrs tgr and it`s hurting so bad,im starting to come to terms with things and seeing my kids each week really helps a lot,my boys 11,my girls 6,and talking to those who`v been through the same situation gets you through it,any of you who care to(maybe dont like me) but care to add a few words of how to deal with this kind of thing would be greatfull,i miss a lot of you guys but i`ll bounce back,be gunnin in a room near you again,,talk l8r guys,lots of love,,ruff

[Puppy Dogs and Ice Cream]

sorry to hear bout that . best of luck to ya bud..been through that before so know its tuff...stay strong

[Poppy]

Hi there Ruff,
I don't really know you but I know this story only too well.
I'm going to keep this quite brief and to the point. You have 2 beautiful kids, and they are still young. (my boy is 6,so i know how hard they can take it when dad aint around 24/7 no more)
Try not to slip into too much drinking and smoking and stuff.
Whenever you see yourself about to do something silly.... picture your kids right there. Your children will be your anchor if you do not allow self pity to take hold. Most importantly, move on as fast as you can. Keep busy.
I wish you all the best, there is no "easy" way through this.... just 1 day at a time.

[Shanna]

Try not to slip into too much drinking and smoking and stuff.
Whenever you see yourself about to do something silly.... picture your kids right there. Your children will be your anchor if you do not allow self pity to take hold. Most importantly, move on as fast as you can. Keep busy.
.

enough said..
good luck dude.

[Smash Bros]

fuck man sorry to hear about that man.

hope you keep it all together and come through it a better man. nothing you can really do to make it easy just listen to what poppy said and it should be good.

[lady in red]

tony, for starters im glad to see ur alive

im really sorry, i was with my kids dad for 13/14 yrs when we split up
i have to be honest it took me a good yr to even feel anything close to normal, its such a hard time when its all uve ever known and there ur world. but things do get better infact one day ull look bk and know it was for the best.

i guess for the guy its that much worse as ur away from the children aswell, my kids still maintain a good realionship with there dad (weve been split now 8 yrs), they know hes only ever at the end of the phone if they need him and hes always made them welcome, just because u dont all live together it doesnt have to change the realationship you have with them, it just takes alot more effort.

good luck, and sending big hugs ur way :)

[steff]

Sorry to hear about that mate. I can't really give advice but Poppy and Tania both sounds pretty sensible. Take care (Y)

[ruffnready]

tung cheers m8,i`l get there,thanks poppy words of wisdom go a long way,and you make perfect sense,iv thought about a lot of silly things,but they both pull me through the hard days,they both mean so much to me,i thank you so much for taking time for some advice,tanya sorry not been around to chat n all but i really do hope everything`s going fine with you,should`nt be long now :angel: and you`l have your hands full,thanks for that,let ryan know i sayed hi k,and i`ll be back soon hopefully,smash been a while m8 hope your doing good,steff thanks bud,im gradually building myself back up to things,i`ll see you`s all again soon,,ruff

[Dymond]

I can't even imagine what youtr going through homie.. I'm lucky that it seems like after 16 years with my wife we seem to reconnecting even better than ever..