Need advice...

[Queen Bitch]

I have a 19 month old son who hasn't been around a male figure since he was born. It's always been just me or his grandmother... well, when I leave the room (even if I am still within eyesight) he screams uncontrollably. I've tried comforting him, letting him cry, everything I can think of. I'm trying to get him to stop doing this because it's gotten out of hand. I want to be able to go from the living room to the kitchen without him screaming like he does. Anyone have any suggestions? It's really stressful. I appreciate it.

[Puppy Dogs and Ice Cream]

marry me then he wont have this problem..lol j/k ...i had kinda same issue with my daughter cause she hadnt been around females much...he will grow out of it but you could try making sure he is busy with a toy or tv and just tell him "mommy is going into other room" and see what he does or just if he is busy go ahead and leave room for a second then call to him saying here is mommy. sounds to me like he has seperation anxiety...

a few more things that eventually worked for me..

1. bring him with you to kitchen get him his favorite snack then walk him to living room or whatever have a special seat for him to sit at for snacks and give it to him and tell him you will be right back...leave room and if he even wimplers walk back. slowly do this and take longer periods of time..if he gets crying then before he gets really upset tell him to come with you..use a happy voice when you speak to him bout it and it reassures them.

2.everytime that you do leave and he doesnt cry come back and give him some possitive reassurance and a hug/kiss, a treat and tell them thank you for letting mommy go to other room..

3. you can also try talking to him as you go to other rooms, with kids that young sometimes if they dont se you they get nervous but if he heres your voice it can sooth him a little bit knowing mommy is still close.

4. if all else fails if your going into other room tell him to come with you but make him walk. do not pick him up and carry him..explain why your going to other room. ex...mommys making dinner,mommy gotta poop..that way he wll understand that your only going to other room to do something and not leaving him...you might try this doing stuff for him first like getting meals,snacks,treats..

just remember positive reassurance to kids means the world, even if you get frustrated dont let him see it, it will only make him more anxious..just be patient, kind, loving, and it make take a little time but he will eventually relax and will know mommy is coming right back...

need anything else let me know

[Queen Bitch]

marry me then he wont have this problem..lol j/k ...i had kinda same issue with my daughter cause she hadnt been around females much...he will grow out of it but you could try making sure he is busy with a toy or tv and just tell him "mommy is going into other room" and see what he does or just if he is busy go ahead and leave room for a second then call to him saying here is mommy. sounds to me like he has seperation anxiety...

a few more things that eventually worked for me..

1. bring him with you to kitchen get him his favorite snack then walk him to living room or whatever have a special seat for him to sit at for snacks and give it to him and tell him you will be right back...leave room and if he even wimplers walk back. slowly do this and take longer periods of time..if he gets crying then before he gets really upset tell him to come with you..use a happy voice when you speak to him bout it and it reassures them.

2.everytime that you do leave and he doesnt cry come back and give him some possitive reassurance and a hug/kiss, a treat and tell them thank you for letting mommy go to other room..

3. you can also try talking to him as you go to other rooms, with kids that young sometimes if they dont se you they get nervous but if he heres your voice it can sooth him a little bit knowing mommy is still close.

4. if all else fails if your going into other room tell him to come with you but make him walk. do not pick him up and carry him..explain why your going to other room. ex...mommys making dinner,mommy gotta poop..that way he wll understand that your only going to other room to do something and not leaving him...you might try this doing stuff for him first like getting meals,snacks,treats..

just remember positive reassurance to kids means the world, even if you get frustrated dont let him see it, it will only make him more anxious..just be patient, kind, loving, and it make take a little time but he will eventually relax and will know mommy is coming right back...

need anything else let me know

wow Tung... you're not just about poop after all :P Thanks... I'll try doing these things and let you know if they work or not. If they do, you're getting a kiss! lmao

[Puppy Dogs and Ice Cream]

just remember it wont happen immediately, you will just have to have patience and keep at it.. took me a bit to get my daughter to ot be so clingy

[Trajedy001]

good man.. good man...

[vixen]

marry me then he wont have this problem..lol j/k ...i had kinda same issue with my daughter cause she hadnt been around females much...he will grow out of it but you could try making sure he is busy with a toy or tv and just tell him "mommy is going into other room" and see what he does or just if he is busy go ahead and leave room for a second then call to him saying here is mommy. sounds to me like he has seperation anxiety...

a few more things that eventually worked for me..

1. bring him with you to kitchen get him his favorite snack then walk him to living room or whatever have a special seat for him to sit at for snacks and give it to him and tell him you will be right back...leave room and if he even wimplers walk back. slowly do this and take longer periods of time..if he gets crying then before he gets really upset tell him to come with you..use a happy voice when you speak to him bout it and it reassures them.

2.everytime that you do leave and he doesnt cry come back and give him some possitive reassurance and a hug/kiss, a treat and tell them thank you for letting mommy go to other room..

3. you can also try talking to him as you go to other rooms, with kids that young sometimes if they dont se you they get nervous but if he heres your voice it can sooth him a little bit knowing mommy is still close.

4. if all else fails if your going into other room tell him to come with you but make him walk. do not pick him up and carry him..explain why your going to other room. ex...mommys making dinner,mommy gotta poop..that way he wll understand that your only going to other room to do something and not leaving him...you might try this doing stuff for him first like getting meals,snacks,treats..

just remember positive reassurance to kids means the world, even if you get frustrated dont let him see it, it will only make him more anxious..just be patient, kind, loving, and it make take a little time but he will eventually relax and will know mommy is coming right back...

need anything else let me know

Tung - great advice. I have taught child growth and development in my past life and this is what I would tell my class. Its like at night when you put them to bed and they cry - they are eventualy going to exhaust themselves and go to sleep.

If there is any advice I can give any parent it to not let your children make a habit out of sleeping with you.....its a nightmare habit to break in the long run.

Good luck :)

[XXX]

:hehe: It's a normal thing for young one's to do.
:hehe: Funny thing is once they get older they stop and move away.
:angel: Then someday you will wish they were little again and a little clingyer.

:hidey: XXX, Father of 4 girls and 1 boy, 2 grand daughters and 2 grand sons and 3? on the way.

[Puppy Dogs and Ice Cream]

Tung - great advice. I have taught child growth and development in my past life and this is what I would tell my class. Its like at night when you put them to bed and they cry - they are eventualy going to exhaust themselves and go to sleep.

If there is any advice I can give any parent it to not let your children make a habit out of sleeping with you.....its a nightmare habit to break in the long run.

Good luck :)

experience is the greatest teacher

[vixen]

experience is the greatest teacher

but not every person who has children has the ability to be a parent - many need help and guidance.....in fact most people need to come with a parental detector to see if the have the common sense to be a parent and the answer to that is NO :)

[Shanna]

have him tested for autism

[Puppy Dogs and Ice Cream]

autism is the exact opposite, the child would be quiet and witdrawn.. people are to quick to either say its atention deficit or autism if a child isnt perfect, that way the can get medication instead of actually dealing with being a parent

[Shanna]

autism is the exact opposite, the child would be quiet and witdrawn.. people are to quick to either say its atention deficit or autism if a child isnt perfect, that way the can get medication instead of actually dealing with being a parent

yeah i feel you on the med issue ....that shit is wack... my friends daughter all she ever did was scream and cry... she was tested and did have it..shes 13 now and not much differant then how she was at 4........ so sad..
im just saying ask ur doc about the crying.. see what they say..

[Flashman]

I have a 19 month old son who hasn't been around a male figure since he was born. It's always been just me or his grandmother... well, when I leave the room (even if I am still within eyesight) he screams uncontrollably. I've tried comforting him, letting him cry, everything I can think of. I'm trying to get him to stop doing this because it's gotten out of hand. I want to be able to go from the living room to the kitchen without him screaming like he does. Anyone have any suggestions? It's really stressful. I appreciate it.

have you cut the umbilical cord yet?