What can I do about a restaining order?

[XXX]

:flushed1: Candy got a restraining order on XXX.

:liesign: What can I do about it, nothing she said to get it is the truth.

:angle1: She knows that I have never done anything bad to her, ever.

:boo: Why is she doing this to me?

:rroulette: Now Im out on the streets while her and her brother (who just got out of prison ) are getting rid of all my things and I don't know what to do.

:pothead: Hey Boss, Someone's coming! What should we do?

Run!!! :run:

[Phuquit]

I'm writing you a PM now.

[XXX]

I'm writing you a PM now.

:fanclub: Yea! Phuquit's alive!

:Friends: We been missing you Bro.

:TY: It's good to have friends like you.

:pothead: Hey Boss, Someone's coming! What should we do?

RUN!!! :run:

[Phuquit]

:fanclub: Yea! Phuquit's alive!

:Friends: We been missing you Bro.

:TY: It's good to have friends like you.

:pothead: Hey Boss, Someone's coming! What should we do?

RUN!!! :run:
I've missed you too, gramps :hugs:

Hopefully we can get this shit sorted out pronto.

[for20gurl]

wow sounds like a big mess. there obviously had to have been a fight or something that upset her enough to take such drastic measures? (even if it was never physical). In order to get a restraining order (here at least) you have to go before a judge and prove that you are in fear for your life,or have been threatened and or physically abusive in some manor. they dont just give them out becuase you dont want to talk to someone anymore. but i will never say that everyone with a restraining order is guilty of anything either (so i am not pointing a finger at you). unfortunately for some men there are women willing to lie to get what they want in the heat of an arguement, and if where you live is anything like where i live, then its a womens world when it comes to stuff like that and even an accusation can send a man to jail. I have seen women lie and say they were hit and men were carried off to jail even though the girl had no marks and no witnesses and he said he didnt touch her.

i believe there is a time limit for the restraining order usually 1-2 yrs(at least thats the way it used to be here) so you probably arent wanting to wait it out. A lawyer could help you have the order removed but if she is that set on not talking to you, that probably wont help much.

if you truly didnt harm her maybe she will come to her sences and let you back in her life. and if you are in the right then i wish you the best of luck with this big mess.

[pitbull]

And sadly in some states all someone has to do is say...well i feel this other person will injure or kill me and there is a restraining order...sad but true...and by the way...legally she cannot do anything to your property or with it....you have to contact the local law enforcement and tell the situation and the restraining order and that you have property that you need...and they should be able to help you make arrangements to get it...and if she does damage your property well...my friend...small claims court will help you then....:cool2:

[vixen]

XXX, my boyfriend's X pulled a restraining order on him some years ago. It was all false. What we did was go speak to a lawyer. He told us to write down all that we did the day in question that he "harrassed" her and get it notorized that it was all true. When he got to court the judge asked her if what she was alleging was true, she had to tell the truth and court and she said no....if you did nothing wrong and I believe you are as harmless as a mouse in a trap, than do just that. Talk to a lawyer, let him see the paperwork. Tell him your side and then go from there. The good guy should always win....I am here if you wanna talk

xoxo
vix

[for20gurl]

yes and make sure you document everything. keep a log with dates and times. even if its just that you called the police to discuss options for getting your stuff back, write it down. if you do have to go to court over your belongings, it will help you prove that you made resonable attempts to get your things back and they werent just "left behind" by you.

[Lady Deth]

Most states allow for a hearing about the restraining order, however, you usually need to request it within 10-15 days of the order being signed. a quick tour of your local court's website (if they have one) or a call to the clerk's office will get you started in the right direction and get you the forms that you need to request a hearing, refute the order or whatever you want to do.

As to your stuff, call the local police/sheriffs and tell them you need an officer to stand by and keep the peace while you get yoru belongings from the apartment but make sure you tell them about the restraining order.

[XXX]

:hugs: First of all we want to thank you all for your messages, Going through this kind of stuff is really hard to do especially with nobody to talk to and your messages (posted and privet) helped XXX more than than he could ever say.

:YES2: Now the update, XXX followed your advice and made notes every day. Then he started getting writen statements from reputible peaple that were willing to testifiy on his behalf and afidavids from anyone that could prove in court beond the shadow of doubt that the allegations were false.

:Blush: Then after the first week sleeping at the parkand at the buss station and the next two in a motel, XXX went to the hearing fully prepaired and guess what happend.

:innocent: The Judge dissmissed the case and recalled the restraining order and XXX was allowed to return to home.


:bye2: Although things between XXX and Candy will probly never be the same, XXX is doing ok now and he wants to thank all of you for your sugestions and support because with out you he was just going to give up and walk away.

:TY:

:pothead: Hey Boss, I think someone is comming! What should we do?

RUN!!!:run:

[Colander]

Good to hear XXX lol can you give us the court drama as it unfolded in smilie talk?

[Phuquit]

Justice has been done!
Good on you bro - I always believed in you :)

[Dymond]

*WOW* that was awesome!! You guys gave XXX some things to do, he took your advice and things worked out for the better..I think though that what XXX ought to do now is think about getting the hell of dodge. I don't know Candy but if this is his place he needs to show her the door. If its her place, he needs to get his stuff and find a new place to live. It may not even be a bad idea to call the police ahead of time and let them know the situation and have them there while a) she is leaving or b) he is leaving.